We’ve moved blogs!

For those who’ve been following this blog, I invite you to go to my new, permanent blog at aniakwak.com for more life musings by yours truly!

Though I will keep this blog up, I will no longer be posting anything in Cheeky Chameleons, so please do check out my new blogging base and stay cheeky! 😉


The “joy” of periods; a man’s personal experience bleeding from “down there”

While every woman knows the pains and frustrations of bleeding from our nethers, men, having the luxury of never having a period, in turn tend to not have many thoughts towards a woman’s period other than “whatever,” “gross,” or “it’s no big deal.”

And let’s be fair, it’s very hard to understand ANYTHING when you don’t get first-hand experience!

Yet one man DID get to experience it, albeit only temporarily and via his rectum, and was brave enough to actually write about his experience online. A fantastic read that honestly does describe what women have to deal with on a monthly basis for a good 40+ years of their lives (for the math savvy, that’s approx. 480 periods in a woman’s lifetime, or +/- 2,400-5,280 days of bleeding, depending on her cycle… That’s assuming it’s only 40 years! And we haven’t even touched on how much blood a woman bleeds out every time…)

A never-ending river of red, hooray! /sarcasm

I knew a guy who had rectal bleeding issues. I was there when he experienced an accident where he stained the seat of our friend’s rental car with blood because of it. He was beyond embarrassed and felt extremely ashamed. I gave him one of my pads at the time and he also refused at first, until I explained that only he and I would know and it would prevent any other accidents from happening. He ended up using it and afterward was extremely thankful; we had a good discussion about periods and how women approach dealing with having blood flood out all the damn time. As for the car stain, he shoved his pride aside and talked to the friends who rented the car (who were both very understanding) and then cleaned the resulting mess.

Read the blogger’s own personal experience here, I guarantee the ladies will appreciate his sympathy, and the gents will have a much better understanding of what ladies must endure. 🙂

Watch “Why Some of us Don’t Have One True Calling | Emilie Wapnick | TEDxBend” on YouTube

So much this!!

We’re not all built the same and it’s just as true when it comes to careers and interests. Some of us are specialists who only want to focus on one thing, others love many things and work best when embracing it all. Yet the world believes we all can only do one thing as a career and that’s that.

How about a big fat NOPE.

Emilie Wapnick is bang-on about multipotentialites and how YES it’s ok to want to do more than one thing, that YES it’s normal, and that the world DOES need to recognize and accept that multipotentialites are necessary for the world to work wonders.

Please watch and share!


Why Some of us don’t have one true calling

This. So much this!

Too often those of us who have more than one passion in life are shunned or told to pick just one thing to do and love. This woman reminds us that it’s great to have people with diverse skills and passions and that it should be nurtured, not shunned, for great things to truly happen.

Multipotentialites exist, we are not alone.

Please watch, and definitely share; this is a message worth spreading!


The Consent Discussion, Using Tea

This is beyond fantastic! Blue Seat Studios made an animated video explaining consensual sex in a simple and amusing way that anyone can understand. And I mean ANYONE.

Replacing sex with a cup of tea, they go over what “saying yes” looks like in this quickly-drawn short. Tea won’t look the same to me ever again; the last forty seconds had me in tears because in NO WAY would anyone do that with tea! Yet people DO do that when it comes to sex, hence the brilliance behind this approach to explaining consent.


tea consent from Blue Seat Studios on Vimeo.

Learned Helplessness: A “Plague” Everyone Needs to Heal From

This. A thousand times this.

Everyone has experienced learned helplessness, the feeling that you can’t do it on your own, that you need someone else to get you where you want and need to be. Most people feel this way. It’s hard not to with the way our world works nowadays, where it’s “all about who you know,” your relationships, and your “connections.” But after watching this, it made me realize that people are going about it the wrong way.

Continue reading